6. The Mother I Was Given vs. The Mother I Needed

Some women wake up on Mother's Day excited to celebrate. Others wake up and brace themselves. If you're the second kind — this Sunday conversation is for you. In Episode 6 of The Purfect Sunday Podcast, Monti opens up about the truth of her own mother — who passed away 11 years ago, before their hard relationship was ever healed. As the eldest daughter of six, Monti was needed to help raise everyone else before she was ever old enough to be a daughter herself. If any part of that resonates — eldest daughter syndrome, parentification, the mother wound, or just the slow realization that the mother you got isn't the mother you needed — pull up a chair. This is a vulnerable, slow, gentle episode. We're unpacking what mother wounds actually are and the different shapes they take. She talks about the specific grief of losing a parent before the relationship was ever repaired — and the term that finally gave her language for it: disenfranchised grief . She lands the episode on three things she wants every woman who finds Mother's Day complicated to walk away with. This isn't an episode about blame. It's an episode about both/and — acknowledging that your mother probably did her best, and that her best wasn't enough, and that both can be true at the same time. In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast: What a mother wound actually is — and the different shapes it takes Eldest daughter syndrome and parentification: why being "the responsible one" was never your job Why your mother likely carries her own unhealed mother wound Disenfranchised grief: the language for losing a parent before reconciliation The both/and that frees you — she did her best AND it wasn't enough A weekly challenge for women who find Mother's Day hard The three takeaways Monti wants you to leave with today If this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast finds you on the morning you needed it, please share it with one woman in your life who might be sitting with the same thing. And if you haven't already, follow The Purfect Sunday Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen — a new episode drops every Sunday. Loved This Episode? If you're enjoying the show, a ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ rating and review means the world and helps more women find the podcast. Subscribe so you never miss a new episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast. Sunday Obsessions Reusable Silicone Eye Patches The Ordinary Caffeine Solution Benefiance Wrinkle Smoothing Eye Cream 100% Silk Sleep Mask The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for women who want to grow as people, without pretending they don't care how they show up. To connect with Monti on Instagram , click HERE To follow Purfect Sunday on Instagram, click HERE To check out my LTK , click HERE To check out my ShopMy, click HERE To check out my Amazon Storefront, click HERE Explore more on health, fashion, fitness, self-care routines, and glow-up habits at www.PurfectSunday.com Thank you for spending your Sunday with me. I hope you have a Purfect Sunday. 💛