#267 Intimacy & Mindfulness | James Cordova, PhD

In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay interviews Dr. James Cordova, a distinguished professor of psychology and author of 'The Mindful Path to Intimacy'. They discuss the true meaning and importance of intimacy beyond just eroticism, exploring how intimacy is rooted in vulnerability met with warmth. They delve into how couples can navigate this delicate aspect of relationships through mindful practices, communication, and emotional vulnerability. Dr. Cordova also touches on the 'porcupine's dilemma' and how intimacy can be built and maintained through mutual understanding and compassion. Listen in for insightful tips on fostering deeper connections and keeping the fire alive in long-term relationships. 00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched 00:28 Understanding Intimacy 00:51 Introducing Dr. James Cordova 00:45 Defining Intimacy 04:47 Intimacy vs. Eroticism 06:59 The Role of Vulnerability 16:16 The Porcupine's Dilemma 20:29 Relationship Health Checkups 23:40 Questions for Couples 24:49 John Gottman's Contributions 25:09 The Golden Ratio in Relationships 25:47 The Golden and Gray Balls Metaphor 28:20 The Porcupine's Dilemma 31:43 The Importance of Gratitude 34:12 Navigating Intimacy and Vulnerability 38:51 Improving Your Sex Life 44:31 The Practice of Savoring 46:42 Final Thoughts and Resources Helpful Links: " The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner” Book Dr. James Cordova Facebook