#295 Getting More Love & Getting Out of Our Own Way | Allison Howe

In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay, a psychologist and podcast host, explores the complex dynamics of love and relationships. Joined by Allison Howe, a seasoned couple therapist, they delve into the challenges couples face in sustaining love and the unconscious ways people sabotage their relationships. They discuss the importance of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT), created by Dr. Stan Takin, and share actionable insights on improving emotional connections. Key topics include the impact of early attachment and nonverbal communication, the vital role of mutual vulnerability and empathy, and practical strategies like the PEPPR approach to overcome relationship hurdles. Listeners will gain valuable tools to foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships, whether facing current struggles or striving to strengthen their bond. 00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched 00:21 The Paradoxes of Love 01:05 Introducing PACT and Allison Howe 03:06 The Importance of Love 04:29 Understanding Attachment and Sabotage 14:24 The PEPPER Approach to Relationship Success 19:18 The Art of Apology 20:04 The Power of Apology in Relationships 21:22 Practicing True Repair in Couples Therapy 23:46 The Importance of Mutual Happiness 25:27 Collaborative Support and Redemptive Narratives 31:00 The Role of Audience in Relationships 36:20 Curiosity and Radical Amazement 37:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts HELPFUL LINKS : Allison Howe